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A New “F” Word

Even though there is absolutely nothing wrong with our old favorite “F” word, and it gets plenty of use, especially from me, occasionally a new word needs to be added to our armamentarium.

Actually, it’s a new acronym, which I love to use almost as much as the “F” word.

It’s FOWOPMT. I know, it’s practically unpronounceable, but it stands for Fear Of What Other People Might Think, so it’s much easier to type, and that’s a good enough reason for me to use it.

It’s the exact opposite of another acronym that is currently very popular, (and pronounceable), FOMO, or Fear Of Missing Out.

If you have FOMO, it means that you are ready, willing and able to do just about anything not to be that person that hears from their friends the day after the big party, “you should have stayed, you won’t believe what happened right after you left.” Or, “you should have come with us after work, we went to a bar and Bruce Springsteen was playing a surprise gig.”

If you have FOMO, you put yourself out there because you’re afraid of missing out on a good time.

FOWOPMT is just the reverse. You don’t go anywhere or do anything, because what would your parents, your friends, your boss, your neighbors, your fill in the blank, think about it. They might look down on you, or think less of you, and how would you live with that?

Here are the 2 biggest things that are wrong with holding on to your FOWOPMT.

First, you’re letting other people tell you how to live your life. It’s your life, you have to live it. If your friends and family can’t accept you as you are, time to find some new friends and family.

Secondly, and this is the one that has the most impact on your spiritual journey, FOWOPMT will keep you from growing in your spirituality as you move forward on your path because you will be afraid of the criticism you might receive about changing from all the people around you, your current tribe if you will.

I know that this has been one of my hardest lessons to learn as I’m changing from a grumpy old white man into a happy someone who is directly connected to his guide, and always learning something new from him.

I’ve had to work through it and overcome it, because I’m about to unleash that guide, Jasper, on the world, and there is no room for anymore “what will people think!” I stand in my truth, and I truly don’t give and “F” word what anyone thinks!

My new tribe is waiting for me.

Until next time, I wish you love and light.